Drink lots of water, filtered not bottled.
Drink everything else available in true moderation.
Look, coffee and tea have been around forever. A cup of either a day is great. Don’t add sugar. Don’t get dependent on the caffeine. Don’t drink soda and have juice in moderation. Beware anything processed, contained in plastic or touting extraordinary health, wellness or energy benefits.
Hmm, maybe addressing “drink” wasn’t as hard as I thought it would be. Oh wait…alcohol.
The basic principle is easy: don’t drink too much.
Don’t drink too much at dinner and think you can drive.
Don’t drink too much at a party and think you can make rational decisions.
Don’t drink every day.
Don’t drink to feel better about yourself, forget about a problem, feel more social, to fit in, to stand out, to attract someone, to have a hard conversation, to maintain a relationship, or to end one.
Drinking is fraught. It is SO simple to have too much. And you will need to learn what too much for you is without anything bad happening. What is bad, you ask? Oh, fist fights, car accidents, rapes, a night on the bathroom floor, arrests, hospital stays. Yes, those things happen. In fact, they happen with more frequency than I realized in my college days when I was figuring it out. And they leave huge, lasting scars, and not only or even primarily on the drinker.
You will know that your dad and I drink socially. Yep, we have been drunk a time or two. We walked home, or were home those times. I have never had so much to drink I forgot what happened (why do anything you don’t want to remember or own up to?)
Here’s the thing…bad things happen in an instant. They also happen over years when you can’t or won’t control your alcohol consumption. The people you love and who love you don’t want to love a drunk man. They want to know your lucid mind and live through all the joys and problems of life with you. My dad is someone you will never meet. His struggle with alcohol brought him to an early death at age 45. Only in recent years can I grasp how very young that is and how very much he has missed out on…you two are just the tip of that iceberg. I don’t know how to explain what I learned by example, how to impact upon you what was so very clearly impacted upon me. I don’t know that I would want you to understand so very well really.
So I will just say again: Drink lots of water, filtered not bottled. Drink everything else available in true moderation. Do not drink too much alcohol.
**Welcome to Tan/Green! I started out blogging about trying to be a granola mom in a fast food world. Now I have embarked on a yearlong project sharing lessons with my sons for what I am pretty sure are boys most worrisome years, about ages 15-30. **